Yes ofcourse...But ofcourse, it has to be with a clear intent in mind and ofcourse, it has to be with some DOs and DONTs.
These DOs and DONTs are for the good of the people involved in it. Emotional scarring occurs when a dating goes bad and this can affect both your physical and spiritual life.
To keep your heart safe, you need to date right when you are ready for that. Why is it necessary that we keep our hearts safe? ....Out of our hearts flows the issues of life!
The tips below from Jarrrid Wilson will help you date right.
However, please be sure you are of age and that you are dating for a definite purpose - marriage - before you jump into it. Also, avoid all that is not Godly in it too....
10 Healthy Dating Practices
WRITEN BY JARID WILSON
There are plenty of unhealthy ways
to date, so I’ve compiled 10 healthy dating practices that I believe cut
to the core of what it means to date with intentionality and maturity.
1. Date with intention.
This is going to be for the best of both
parties involved. Dating isn’t a game, and the last thing you want to
do is get in a relationship with someone when your intentions are
anything but pure. If you’re just looking for fun, I’d recommend you be
open and honest about your intentions with anyone you meet or connect
with. It’s only fair to them and their emotions.
2. Make sure your first date is in a public place.
You just never know who you’re going to
meet. I’d recommend your first date be in a public place, in front of
lots of people and I’d even recommend you let your friends know where
you will be in case something were to happen. You never know who the
person you’ve chatted with on the phone might act in person, and the
last thing you want to happen is end up in a private place with someone
whose motives are anything but respectful.
3. Try to learn as much as you can before meeting them.
Ahh. Yes, the beauty of social media. If
they have public profiles, then make sure to do your due diligence and
research as much as you can about the person. It only makes sense to do a
little Facebook stalking to see who you’re meeting with. C’mon… we’ve
all done it. While someone’s online profiles might not always match up
with how they act in person, it’s always a good idea to see how someone
presents themselves online and it may give you the opportunity to end a
date before it even starts. Better to be safe than sorry.
4. Value the input of your friends and family.
Your friends and family play a valuable
role in your dating life, and it’s always good to get their opinions
when it comes to the person you are dating. Mind you, they might always
give the best advice but it’s always good to get wisdom from the people
who are looking out for your best interest.
5. Continue to stay social with your friends and family.
Don’t be that person who gets a
relationship and then disappears from the face of the planet. We all
know that person. Yes, I know you want to spend time with your new bae,
but it’s also healthy to continue carving out time for your friends and
family members.
6. Have a “define the relationship” every few dates to see how things are going.
Nobody likes dating in the dark. I don’t
mean literally, but emotionally. Not knowing where your relationship
stands can be extremely stressful, so I suggest that you and your new
girl/guy take time every few weeks to discuss where each other is at
with things. This will give you both clarity, keep the relationship
healthy, and keep the relationship from ever going farther than it needs
to.
7. Be open and honest from the very beginning.
Relationships thrive on transparency.
Letting people know about you from the very beginning is quite possibly
the best thing you can do for your relationship. Everyone’s made
mistakes, and I’d encourage you to share about the big pieces of your
life that have made you who you are today. Don’t keep things hidden in
fear of rejection. Be open.
8. Don’t play with someone’s emotions. If it’s not working, then end it.
Some relationships are kind of like the t.v show ‘American Idol’—they
go on way longer than they actually should. Seriously though, don’t
keep a relationship going just for the heck of it. The best thing you
can do is be transparent about how you’re feeling. If things aren’t
working out, then end it with care. Ending the relationship as soon as
you realize it’s not working out will show you care about the person
more than dragging it along for the heck of it. Trust me.
9. Don’t have important conversations via text or email.
We’ve all been there. Auto-correct and
text interpretation can be a relationships worst nightmare. Save the
important conversations for an actual conversation, not a banter of back
and forth emoji’s and broken english. Plus, waiting to talk in person
will give you time to really think about what you want to say instead of
texting out of pure emotion.
10. Don’t settle.
Simple. Don’t settle for a mediocre
relationship. You deserve to be with someone who supports you,
encourages you, cares for you, and loves you for who you are. Don’t
settle for mediocre when you could have extraordinary.
—Jarrid Wilson
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